Writing messages on dating sites
Men may also want to consider a rather strange approach that was uncovered by Ok Cupid: This dating website found that men who appeared vulnerable actually received more replies than those appearing too confident, quite the opposite of the real-world dating experience. The thought is that these words create uncertainty, leading to a sense of vulnerability, and ultimately make you seem less threatening.
Paying a compliment can also help make your message personal if you compliment something specific in their profile.
Your first message determines the initial impression you make, and only about one-third of first messages even receive a reply.
A common theme of success in sending your message is to be intelligently casual.
Ok Cupid found that first messages containing the phrase "you mention" were replied to 48% of the time.
Reference something important to both you and the recipient to make your message personal and form a connection.
A good first message might look something like the following: "What?!